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Today’s Tip
Back Out of a Commitment Gracefully
Have you ever said “yes” to something — taking on a new project, leading an internal committee — and later wished you had said “no”? It’s not always possible to back out, but, when done gracefully, you may be able to uncommit in a way that keeps your reputation intact and your relationships strong. Here are some strategies to keep in mind.
* Consider the cost. Before you deliver the news, make sure that backing out is the right decision. Maybe the opportunity would have enough upside that it would be worth it even if it means working flat out for a period of time. However, if the costs outweigh the benefits (such as the impact on your personal life or your current projects), then it’s better to withdraw.
* Be diplomatic but truthful. When you deliver your message, be direct, thoughtful, and above all else, honest. But resist the temptation to overexplain. For example, you might say: “When I said I could join the committee last month, I fully believed I had enough bandwidth to do a great job. After taking a closer look at my calendar, I realized I’ve overextended myself. This means I won’t be able to participate.”
* Offer an alternative. Don’t leave the person high and dry. If possible, propose a different timeline, reschedule the commitment to a new date, or say that you'd love to collaborate on a future project (assuming you do). This will help you preserve the relationship, even after saying "no."
This tip is adapted from “How to Say 'No' After Saying 'Yes'<https://hbr.org/2021/09/how-to-say-no-after-saying-yes?utm_medium=email&utm_source=newsletter_daily&utm_campaign=mtod_actsubs&utm_content=signinnudge,”> by Melody Wilding
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Today’s Tip
Back Out of a Commitment Gracefully
Have you ever said “yes” to something — taking on a new project, leading an internal committee — and later wished you had said “no”? It’s not always possible to back out, but, when done gracefully, you may be able to uncommit in a way that keeps your reputation intact and your relationships strong. Here are some strategies to keep in mind.
* Consider the cost. Before you deliver the news, make sure that backing out is the right decision. Maybe the opportunity would have enough upside that it would be worth it even if it means working flat out for a period of time. However, if the costs outweigh the benefits (such as the impact on your personal life or your current projects), then it’s better to withdraw.
* Be diplomatic but truthful. When you deliver your message, be direct, thoughtful, and above all else, honest. But resist the temptation to overexplain. For example, you might say: “When I said I could join the committee last month, I fully believed I had enough bandwidth to do a great job. After taking a closer look at my calendar, I realized I’ve overextended myself. This means I won’t be able to participate.”
* Offer an alternative. Don’t leave the person high and dry. If possible, propose a different timeline, reschedule the commitment to a new date, or say that you'd love to collaborate on a future project (assuming you do). This will help you preserve the relationship, even after saying "no."
This tip is adapted from “How to Say 'No' After Saying 'Yes'<https://hbr.org/2021/09/how-to-say-no-after-saying-yes?utm_medium=email&utm_source=newsletter_daily&utm_campaign=mtod_actsubs&utm_content=signinnudge,”> by Melody Wilding
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